Do you ruminate? What is ruminating? Let's take a look at what it is, why we do it, and what XJWs are doing to stop the cycle of rumination. Many of us XJW find ourselves constantly reliving and thinking about the bad experiences we have had in the past. They may be about experiences we …
What is Your Locus of Control?
"Locus of control" refers to where an individuals control over their life comes from. It relates to their ability to make changes in life. Is control over your life internally generated? Or is it reliant upon external forces? As Witnesses, we were encouraged to have an external locus of control. What were you taught to …
THe Power of Laughter
It may seem a bit cliche but laughing is powerful. By nature, I'm a very serious person. I've been criticized for not smiling enough. Not laughing enough. I only discovered the power true power of laughter after I left Jehovah's Witnesses. I was devastated by my experience with Jehovah's Witnesses. I was devastated being …
What is Yoga?
Jehovah's Witnesses are opposed to Yoga considering it a Demonic practice. Because of this, I've always view Yoga and similar practices with skepticism. In early 2018 I watched the entire course on Yoga from "The great courses" which can also be purchased on DVD and found on Amazon. After watching I had an entirely new …
Ex-JW and Learned Helplessness
The subject of my honors research is Learned Helplessness. This is a subject that is of interest to Jehovah's Witnesses, active and former, because they too may experience Learned Helplessness. Let's discuss what helplessness is and why it might be affecting you. Learned Helplessness was discovered by Martin Seligman. In addition to publishing various research …
The dark fog nightmare
Many former members of the Jehovah's Witness faith report having nightmares after leaving. I've had a few nightmares myself. One of those nightmares involved me being in a Kingdom Hall. The Kingdom hall we attended when I was a child was what I would describe as split level. If you entered the main door you …
TO feel Like I belong
It's funny how when you look back in time it seems as though all that has happened has happened in the blink of an eye. It was just 5 or 6 years ago when I officially escaped the high control religion that I was born into. My life was totally different then. I thought I …
Blue mana Nightmare
Being raised as one of Jehovah's Witnesses produced nightmares even as a child. There is one nightmare I remember having quite vividly. I had it when I was still a preteen. Let me explain the dream. So in the dream, I woke up After Armageddon had occurred. I was my house but I was alone. …