So there was a third girl I met up with, lets call her Laura. This girl presented as an intellectual and rationally minded person. She was also Puerto Rican. I dubbed her a “Skeptical Unicorn” for being both non-religious and Latina, which is something that seems rare.
Laura was cool and into all sorts of science-y things that I also enjoy. Being Non-Religious is one of the qualities that is important to me. However as I have discovered there is a difference between someone who is from mainstream america and is more or less passive about religion and some who who has to fight and make sacrifices for what they believe in.
The topic of politics came up and I said that I describe my beliefs as being liberal in nature but I also tend to not agree with people who describe their beliefs as being liberal. I explained that so-called liberals often want to deny my experience and tell me what my experience is and who I am She wanted an example.
So I gave for example my part Native American ethnicity. She immediately responded saying that my ethnicity “didn’t count” and that Native American Ancestry only “counts” if you have someone who is full blood 5 generations or less ago. To me it seemed like she was doing exactly what I was talking about.
Later I gave the example of my experience being raised in a cult and escaping fundamentalism. She said that I was “privileged” and that despite being born into a fundamentalist dooms day cult and being robbed of identity and autonomy that I had never experienced oppression.
We didn’t seem to agree on a bunch of things. Ironically, we did seem to agree and bond over our dislike of white female feminism though. Laura also shared a story about how she went to Africa and had the experience of being viewed as a “White girl” rather than as her typical identity as a Latina.
I’m not sure how to explain it but I feel like somewhere in sharing her experience in Africa she seemed to get what I was talking about. I hung out with Laura once or twice but I guess I just didn’t feel anything. The chemistry wasn’t there or whatever.
Jehovah’s Witnesses are often judgmental and have a black and white view of the world. XJWs might carry on with these traits without knowing even it. This will hamper their personal growth as well as their capacity to help others. So let me introduce you to a concept in psychology called Unconditional Positive Regard.
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Jehovah’s Witnesses teach that if we obey their rules we will live forever. Either by means of resurrection to heaven or to an earthly paradise. They teach that when people we love die they aren’t really dead. Instead, they are merely sleeping and we will see them again. This belief helps soothe the existential dread that many people experience. But what happens when you leave Jehovah’s Witnesses or other faith? How can you view life and death? Let’s take a moment and talk about life and its value.
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Do you ruminate? What is ruminating? Let’s take a look at what it is, why we do it, and what XJWs are doing to stop the cycle of rumination.
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Ex Jehovah’s Witnesses overcome all sort of unhealthy social ideas and habits. One of those unhealthy things is Codependency. It’s something that was ingrained in us from an early age. Let’s explore what it is and what kind of impact it might be having in your life today.
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So I met up with several girls off of OkCupid but most of them I just met up with once. Then I chatted with a girl that I’m going to call Tina. Tina was cute and a bit different from Ashley.
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“Locus of control” refers to where an individuals control over their life comes from. It relates to their ability to make changes in life. Is control over your life internally generated? Or is it reliant upon external forces?
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It may seem a bit cliche but laughing is powerful. By nature, I’m a very serious person. I’ve been criticized for not smiling enough. Not laughing enough. I only discovered the power true power of laughter after I left Jehovah’s Witnesses.
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Jehovah’s Witnesses are opposed to Yoga considering it a Demonic practice. Because of this, I’ve always view Yoga and similar practices with skepticism. In early 2018 I watched the entire course on Yoga from “The great courses” which can also be purchased on DVD and found on Amazon. After watching I had an entirely new perspective on Yoga.
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When I was one of Jehovah’s Witnesses I felt stuck. I wanted to achieve things in my life and I wasn’t able to. This led me to be very depressed. Now, this was partly because of the limiting rules of the Witnesses and the harsh consequences for not following them. However even after leaving the Witnesses I’ve felt stuck at times not sure how to make progress on the things I wanted. Both Witnesses and former Witnesses alike may feel helpless to change or improve their lives. I found that journaling can help, let me explain how.
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The subject of my honors research is Learned Helplessness. This is a subject that is of interest to Jehovah’s Witnesses, active and former, because they too may experience Learned Helplessness. Let’s discuss what helplessness is and why it might be affecting you.
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In 2018 I went to a psych fair at school and there was a table there for their school psychology fair. Now initially I thought that school psychology meant being a guidance counselor. This is a common misconception. School psychologists might engage in therapy with students and more commonly they screen children for Special Education. They likely also administer various tests.
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